I am healing and feel so much better about myself and who I am. You both have the option of saying yes, no, or maybe. But we had such a great rapport that we decided to keep it going. Although he wrote these emails laying in bed with me. He had been through alcohol rehab 25 years ago and right after that had an affair. The pornography invaded my life from before the beginning of our marriage. Is she possibly up to something? This syndrome is a complex mixture of biological, psychological, cultural, and family-of-origin issues, the combination of which creates impulses and urges that are virtually impossible to resist.
Perhaps that could be a starting place for you. Granted my money keeps going into stuff she wants, about the only thing my money can maybe be used for the occasional beer. Maybe it reminds him of what he did and im supposed to just be this saintly mother of his children. Maybe try costumes and keep fit and spice your life up. It feels like I am the one who did something wrong. If it might be embarassing to him he bolts. I have searched and searched on line for support groups or 12 step groups.
And i never even got the chance to grieve his loss. You can get the basic idea on this page of without getting into his particular religious perspective, if that works better for you. I got sucked into it, thinking it was about us as a couple because he knew how open and adventurous I was. I recently caught him hiding a conversation with this man and was curious. I thought that the counseling had helped. He txts me with compliments and lots of sweet words, but then mid txt convetsation, he just dissapears.
Working long hours could be a cover for. I do not believe you will find others you will love. At first he was upset that I looked at his phone, then he confessed. Addiction is such a difficult issue. He was a quiet man and had no strong male friends. He has a porn addiction. You outwardly panic at the thought of losing your partner.
Make sure your emotional needs are met. I am so confused, hurt, and angry I just dont know how much more I can take. On my way home from work i stopped at his place. Unfortunately, there is no magically revealing or definitive list that will let you know without question that your partner has an issue with. He was going to counseling to help work on our marriage. I have been with him since the age of 15. I do have actual proof, screenshots and copies of messages, do I show them? We have sex, but I am the one who always, always has to initiate it.
Do u mind me asking are u still with your husband and do u have children?? He will likely not be able to have a rational conversation, and he may not even remember it the next day. I hooked up with a friend from highschool January of last year. It will never end and you will never feel happy in the real world until you get proper help. Obviously he has to learn some better ways of coping with stress. If you can find the opportunity, wait until he is sober to have important discussions. What tatoo of his stands out the most? Not only that, he married a second time and also ended up cheating on that wife, too.
Treats, resting, a hobby, reading a magazine. It is used to avoid or is a source of painful feelings. I can handle my husband watching porn, i will watch it with him but i want him to want me like he wants that thrill to be with other women. I decided today that I am going to ask him to leave. In november he got a dui and did jailtime after being layed off due to downsizing at our work, and shortly after i lost my job due to pregnancy complications dealing with his situation. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.
I was sick and depressed for days. He is very nieve at how things work. Everytime I saw him all I could think of is, you preferred your screen and hand over me? Then in March, he was sexting, screwing a fat pig he knew long ago. If I found out years ago before children I would have divorced because it tears my heart out. He of course promised he would stop bla bla bla. I know that I am a very attractive woman as other men notice and I was never short of dates before him. I had never found myself in this situation before and he is a great guy otherwise so I decided to work on it.