I talky want to be with him but I hate feeling this way. Guys, do not let pride or fear get in the way as you will miss the opportunity to grow and strengthen your marriage. And it works for both of them. I will just say I read it all. Hes the kindest, most honest man ive ever met — but im unsure if i can spend the rest of my life cleaning up after him and making sure he remembers his socks. And let me warn you, it means everyone around you has to change their image of you, their beliefs, their story that you are a certain way. Amazing how we have managed to live and function based on how some of you see us! So my husband does something minor and it irritates me.
It can result in depressive symptoms as well if briefly. We recently separated do to burn out on my part. Indeed, Lynn Weiss has walked the walk. I still want us to work out but it is very difficult when the other side chosses not to work as a part of the team. I think this is rude. I dont blame her for feeling the way she does.
Does anyone have any advice to help me feel hopeful? The problem is that our neurological disorder is just discrete enough that we seem perfectly healthy and normal to neuro-typical people. We are raising 3 beautiful girls in a blended family, at our farm. Seriously, I try to make it as easy as I can for him by leaving lists of things that our boys need to do on the school nights I work. I know I will be okay. I would love to interview you! But I also remind myself that he is doing the best he can and he has to find a job that fits him with all of his unique qualities. One of the things that helped me a lot is to stop being so angry and ready to battle.
I know deep down that he is a great person, I just got easily frustrated and lost patience and so did he. The key is to learn to work together as a team. But it's more comfortable for him to call me unreasonable. Tried to get my partner to read more about the condition so as to help him understand me more and why I do some of the things I do. My hubby has been treated for years. Learn to laugh over the inevitable miscommunications and misunderstandings. Together you might brainstorm strategies to minimize distractibility instead of yelling at your partner.
If your partner constantly seems disinterested in what you're saying or appears to ignore you, it would be easy to understand that one might feel lonely. He is constantly on the go. I could no longer reason with him so I encouraged the separation. Luckily I have a job that really caters to my A. Woke up today and took my meds and an hour later washed all the dishes before she even woke up though. My hubby trieds to listen. They can help you set up a system and routine you can rely on to help you stay on top of your responsibilities.
It breaks my heart because he is such a great person but I cannot handle the clutter, anger outbursts, forgetfulness, lateness, etc. I am short and to the point. When she cooks, I clean. And the fact I had dabbled w drugs in the past nothing like this mans partner but bcuz of this man i had gotten addictions to certain pills. The days of him listening intently to my ideas and opinions were the 1st year we were together.
He noticed to many of the traits that make me me. Give him a month and try again putting criticism and your own self esteem lightly aside when you speak in person. That hurts me so much because I have always been close with my sister, but this has put a strain on our relationship. Find the humor in the situation. In the end this unforseen life challenge is making us stronger as a couple as well as independently.
The challenges faced when married to someone with untreated Attention Deficit Disorder can prove difficult to navigate. We need specific strategies that aren't necessarily what works for someone else. It was very hurtful to me and I felt like he was blowing me off. Ironically I had a childhood of not being listened to. . I thought of saying the same thing impulsively but did not mean it.