He or she has to make a personal commitment to recovery. Self-loathing, self-hatred — Feelings of worthlessness, guilt, shame, and self-hatred. Don't involve other peers unless the person is happy with you involving other people. If you have, it may be helpful for your friend to realize that you have experienced what he is feeling and were able to get better. Help a loved one by leaving helpful reminders. If the person is likely to take an overdose, keep medications locked away or give them out only as the person needs them. It takes a lot of courage to help someone who is suicidal.
One exception is if you believe your depressed friend is in danger of hurting himself or herself. Sometimes, you won't be able to handle it, and you feel like you need to hide it from your loved one. Drinks more or abuses drugs, including prescription sleeping pills and painkillers. Often people feel like they are a bad person because they were too sick to go to work or attend a social occasion; but this is not the case. Make sure you can be totally honest with the person you turn to—choose someone who will listen without interruption and without judging you.
Practice breathing exercises and read about the power of forgiveness. Seemingly small tasks can be hard for a depressed person to manage. Another exception is when you believe the depressed person may hurt someone else. It took a long time, but I finally figured some of it out. And most importantly, they aren't sad.
You may think that he or she needs to go to the doctor, take medication, get counseling, increase his or her activities, go back to work, etc. . These guidelines can help you support a depressed person in their recovery while maintaining your own emotional equilibrium. Most of the time, however, a concerned friend or family member just doesn't know what to do to help. Wiley Reading is a Contributing Writer at Everyday Feminism. But , and people struggling with depression need the right kind of loving support.
Even the strongest men, however, are not immune to illness and cannot cure it alone. They will scream at the cat and curse-out their shoe. One of the best things you can do for someone with depression, says, is listen to what they have to say. If the doctor prescribes medication, make sure your friend or loved one takes it as directed. In children and adolescents, the mood may be irritable rather than sad. Make space for emotions; don't try to limit them or contain them.
Where to turn for help In the U. Find what works best for them and remind them of it whenever they're not sure they can hang on any longer. Everyone who has it experiences it differently, but we all agree that it sucks. For this reason it is better to seek treatment as soon as the first symptoms appear. If your friend or family member resists getting help: Suggest a general check-up with a physician.
Depression is not contagious, and while it can be saddening to see your friend go through that, you should be fine as long as you take care of yourself. Be a good role model for your depressed friend or family member by living a positive, growing, balanced life yourself. Accept them just as they are in that moment. Actually, one of my friends has been suffering from depression for more than a year but I only understood it for about 6 months. Suggest alternatives if you don't see any improvement from the initial treatment in about six to eight weeks. Our culture tends to think of childhood and adolescence as happy, carefree times of life, free of worry from the problems of the world.
This often results in social withdrawal — avoiding situations that involve being around other people. Knowing this will allow you to be more patient and understanding. Encourage your friend or family member to lead a healthier, mood-boosting lifestyle by doing it yourself: maintain a positive outlook, eat better, avoid alcohol and drugs, exercise, and lean on others for support. Call a health care professional, mental health clinic or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 to get advice about what action to take. There are also gender differences in the way symptoms are experienced.
You need to take care of yourself. You can help him by encouraging positive distractions and guiding him away from the negative ones. Strangely enough, a webcomic put a lot of things into perspective for me. Many people feel uncomfortable bringing up the topic but it is one of the best things you can do for someone who is thinking about suicide. If Everyday Feminism has been useful to you, please take one minute to keep us publishing the articles you've come to rely on us for.